Best Friends, Doesn’t Mean You Have To Talk Every Day

Growing up I was pretty much a loner. I didn’t really have a best friend. Yes there were people I was friendly with at school but they really weren’t my friends outside of school. I was a kid that was much older than her years. I was the teenager that stayed in, nights and weekends. I was content watching a movie or reading a book. Did I ever wish that I had the group of close friends I saw in some of my favorite T.V. shows, sure I did, and I truly wanted that.

I was lucky enough to find that group of friends during college. These group of people where eye opening to me. They helped me out of my shell, broke down some of my very high walls, and showed me that I mattered. I let my hair down around them, I let myself go, I wasn’t afraid to show my goofy and fun side. I was able to be me. I am truly blessed that I met this amazing group of people. And this how I met my best friend.

Its been 8 years since my best friend came walking into my life, (more like my room) and we hit it off from the start. She was there when I was at my lowest, she helped pick me up when I hit bottom. And I was there in return when she needed a shoulder to cry on, when she needed someone to take care of her, or when she needed an ear to listen. We have been through think and thin, through sickness and health, and through the ups and downs that life has thrown our way.

But as college came to an end and we both moved back to our hometowns. It hasn’t been the same, which is to be expected. We live 4 hours away from each other and it’s been 6 years since I last saw my best friend. Yes we have Skype dates and talk on the phone on occasion, but we both have our own lives, where we are busy and running around, with jobs and boyfriends, and family, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t keep each other in our hearts. 

When I am out with my friends I wish she could join us. And there are times when I wish we lived close together so I could have a girls night in with some wine, pizza and a good movie while we sit next to each other, like when we were in college, or met up for Sunday brunch. But just because she isn’t here to do all that with me, still doesn’t mean I don’t wish that she was here. 

This is what I have learned as an adult who didn’t have a best friend until college. Even though we don’t live close by doesn’t mean she isn’t my best friend, and just because we don’t talk every day doesn’t mean she isn’t my best friend. She knows that if I really need to talk to her that I will call and she knows the same goes for her. She has called me in the early hours of the morning when she needed someone to talk to. I have called her up while she was on her way home, because I needed advice. We know that we are only a phone call away.

We send each other birthday cards every year, when something important comes up she is one of the first people I tell. First dates, new jobs, new life experiences. She will be by my side when I get married, she will be there when I have my first kid, and I know I will be there for her too. 

So here are some of the reasons why she is my best friend, even though we don’t talk every day.

• She is my best friend because she got on a bus at midnight and took a 4-hour bus ride to get to me after a family member passed away. 

• She is my best friend because she sat by my side during my panic attacks.

• She is my best friend because we can sit in a room without saying anything to each other.

• She is my best friend because she tells me the truth even if I might not want to hear it.

• She is my best friend because she knows something is wrong just by the look in my eyes.

• She is my best friend because even though we don’t talk that often she will tag me in posts on Facebook.

• She is my best friend because we can talk about books, movies, and music. 

• She is my best friend because we will do things for each other that we normally wouldn’t do. 

So yes I have a best friend, and yes we haven’t seen each other in years, and no I haven’t spoken to her in months, but she is still my best friend. 

P.S. She also loves The Lady Gang